I’m hoping that Juliette will be able to present one of her wonderful videos on this subject, but wondered if any of you girls out there had a view on the following.
Like Juliette I keep my male self separate from Stella, not that I’m not confident in who I am but more from the point of view that I know a number of my friends and family simply could not / will not be able to understand why I crossdress. As with most of us in the trans community we are arguably more caring about those who are close, and with me it is further complicated that some rely on me to be the strong supportive male role model, and as such I really do not want to hurt those who are close. Hence why I choose to keep my male self and Stella separate.
Now I should explain, this is the first upcoming summer where the signs of Stella are more obvious. While I’m totally confident to explain to a stranger who I am, I really cannot see things working out well with those who are close. Fully appreciate the ethos of “hope for the best but plan for the worst”, however I really don’t know how I’d react should someone who is close to me calls me out.
I’m naturally a rather extrovert person which I think cuts me some slack and gives me the opportunity to express myself and perhaps avoids people joining up the dots. However, I wouldn’t be comfortable lying about who I am but equally I wouldn’t want to cause hurt, distress and confusion among those I care for and rely on me.
I’m sure you girls have been in similar situations and I’d really appreciate your thoughts and advice, and perhaps your input may provide further substance and dimension to Juliette’s video should she have the time to cover the topic.
On the positive side, with today being a wonderfully sunny and warm day in old London town, my now rather less hairy arms broke cover from the shade of shirtsleeves and not one of my work colleagues said a thing or gave me a second look.
Lots of love